Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Nina Amir - Negativity, Attitude, Success

Thanks to the WOW! Women on Writing Blog Tour, it is a pleasure to introduce marketing guru, book coach, and author, Nina Amir.

I asked Nina, whose new book The Author Training Manual offers a blueprint and process to separate yourself and your book from the thousands of books created each year, to discuss how negative thinking impacts potential success, and offer ways to overcome it. Please welcome Nina to the Circle.

No matter what type of professional event I attend, the keynote speakers always share the same advice: Focus your thoughts on what you want to achieve because what you think about is what you create.

In other words, these successful people tell the audience that if you train your thoughts on positive things, like your ability to attract a publisher or to write a book that sells an above average amount of copies, you increase your chances of creating these events. If, on the other hand, you constantly think about negative things, such as the possibility that you only will receive rejection letters from agents and acquisitions editors and that you don’t write well, you are more likely to manifest these outcomes.

5 Negative Thoughts and How They Prevent You From Succeeding

Negative thinking holds us all back. You don’t have to possess a metaphysical bent or run around with personal growth gurus, to control your mind, though. Begin by realizing what they are and how they affect you.

Here are five of the top negative thoughts writers have and the reasons why they make it hard for you to succeed.

1. I’m not good enough. Although many people believe this about themselves, creative people, like writers, tend to suffer from this negative thought more than most. It may stop you from writing altogether. (After all, if you aren’t good enough, why bother?) It results in low self-esteem, which makes it hard for you to promote your book, ask for help, learn new things, become a speaker, and get out there and play big.

This type of thinking might give you the sense that you can’t compete against other authors in your genre or a doomed-to-fail complex, either of which might cause you to get stuck along the path to successful authorship. It might stop you from developing an authentic voice as an author, showing up on social networks or writing a second book if your first doesn’t do well.

2. I’m just a writer. Many authors just want to write; they don’t want to do any other tasks associated with succeeding in the publishing world, such as promotion. If you are one of these aspiring or published authors, you probably hang onto this negative thought. It serves you well, if all you want to do is write and not reach the goal of successful authorship. However, successful authors today must be more than writers. They must be marketers, entrepreneurs, speakers, media darlings, radio and television hosts, and more. When you tell yourself you are just a writer, you resist doing the things necessary to succeed.

3. I have nothing to say. This thought kills most attempts to write. It will cause your passion for your project to dissipate and your inspiration to work on your manuscript to vanish. The more often you tell yourself, “I have nothing to say,” the more that becomes true. You convince yourself of this fact, and your mind goes blank. Or you will read the words you write and go on to negative thought #4.

4. No one wants to read what I have to say. A close relative to #1 and #3, this negative thought might set in during or after you have written something. It’s most prevalent at about the time you want to ask someone to read your work or you plan to release your book. It might cause you to doubt that you should bother. After all, if no one wants to read your book, why send it off to an agent or publisher and waste their time, or why put your own time and money into publishing. And why waste a reader’s time? At it’s worst, this negative thought can stop you from writing as well.

5. I could fail. You may consider this a fear more than a thought, but your thoughts create your feelings. You make yourself afraid. The more you think about the possibility of failure and tell yourself you could fail, the more likely you feel afraid. This negative thought will stop you in your tracks, imprison you and prevent you from getting anywhere close to your goal of successful authorship. It might prevent you from starting on your manuscript, stop you from ever sending out a query letter, keep you from standing behind a lectern, or cause you to never publish your book. (If you don’t possess this negative thought, you might have it’s opposite: I am afraid to succeed.)

How to Rid Yourself of Negative Thinking

A classic remedy for negative thinking has been, first, to become aware of your negative thoughts, and, second, to get to the root of your thoughts. Why do you believe them? What caused you to have these beliefs.

Another common tool involves turning your negative thoughts into positive ones—affirmations. For example, I am good enough, I have something important and meaningful to say or People are eager to read my work. You repeat these to yourself often to convince your unconscious mind these new thoughts are true.

You also can uncover your negative payoff for having this thought. What do you gain by thinking this? For example, if you continue thinking and believing you aren’t a good writer, you’ll never write your book; then you’ll never have to suffer the agony of rejection. The pay off is that you don’t write the book and don’t get rejected. Once you find the negative payoff, replace it with a positive one that moves you toward your goal. For instance, if you write your book, you will prove you are a good writer, or you will fulfill a lifelong dream.

It’s possible to work with a life coach or a therapist to do this type of personal growth work. As an author and results coach, for instance, I do this with my clients.

Whatever method you choose, do, indeed, become aware of your negative thoughts and change them. Your results will follow suit, and you’ll find yourself achieving your goal of successful authorship much more easily.

*Please join the conversation, share thoughts and be eligible to enter a random drawing of commenters to receive a paperback copy of The Author Training Manual.

About the Author:  Nina Amir, author of How to Blog a Book: Write, Publish, and Promote Your Work One Post at a Time and The Author Training Manual: Develop Marketable Ideas, Craft Books That Sell, Become the Author Publishers Want, and Self-Publish Effectively, transforms writers into inspired, successful authors, authorpreneurs and blogpreneurs. Known as the Inspiration to Creation Coach, she moves her clients from ideas to finished books as well as to careers as authors by helping them combine their passion and purpose so they create products that positively and meaningfully impact the world.

A resident of California, Nina is a sought-after author, book, blog-to-book, and results coach, some of Nina’s clients have sold 300,000+ copies of their books, landed deals with major publishing houses and created thriving businesses around their books. She writes four blogs, self-published 12 books and founded National Nonfiction Writing Month, aka the Write Nonfiction in November Challenge.

To learn more about Nina, visit www.ninaamir.com. Get a FREE 5-Day Become a Published Author Series from her when you click here.

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