Monday, October 3, 2016

Memoir Writer's Advice: “Dare to be Audacious”

Have you taken a bold path to penning your memoir? In this essay author Kellie Springer encourages the writer to be "audacious."

"Get out of your head and your own way. Cease with the shoulds and the musts," she writes. "It seems to me that train of thought does nothing but halt, or, at the very least, limit moving forward."
I first met Kellie Springer two years ago at a business gathering of women entrepreneurs. Soon after, Kellie began attending the Women’s Writing Circle to read aloud excerpts of her memoir-in-progress. Her words touched our group in many ways, not the least of which was her willingness to dig deep, reveal her vulnerabilities and embark on a journey of self-discovery.

In the safety and support of the Women's Writing Circle Kellie says she found the encouragement to honor her voice and tell her story of childhood abuse. Here is her journey of writing and publishing her memoir. ~ Susan

I recently launched the release of my memoir, Relentless: A Journey of Forgiveness, out into the ethers of the world via Amazon where all things necessary can be found. I never had a burning desire to be a writer, only an internal suggestion from the universe that I do so. It was a debut four years in the making and its beginnings quite humble.

I use the term ‘humble’ because I have taken not one writing course, except what I was offered in high school. In fact, my computer skills were so poor that I had to ask my younger son to teach me how to copy, cut and paste. It has become something I’ve mastered, but only after following the instructions I initially wrote down for myself during my son’s tutorial. In fact, I didn’t even know if my words were intelligible as I had never before read them out loud to others.

So you see I was quite ill-prepared to take on the creation of a book. I was not blind to that truth, but instead I paid it no mind because that truth did nothing to serve me in my purpose of sharing my journey with others. My only plan - begin.

I did nothing conventionally. And by that I mean:
1) I did not set time aside each day to write.

2) I hadn’t formulated the main ideas or theme of my book.

3) I only wrote when I felt pulled to do so.

4) I did not write in chapters but instead vignettes.

5) Each writing entry had nothing to do with the one before or after it.

6) When I felt complete with my initial entries I printed the lot of them and literally cut them into sections with scissors in the hopes of creating some connection amongst them all.

In time I sought editorial help from others and dared to speak out loud the words I had so haphazardly typed.

And it worked. I did not have any clear path or goal in mind other than to take one step and then another, without the aid of a step-by-step guide. Those millions of baby steps took me here to tell you of my crooked path to my newfound role as an author.

My memoir is as perfect as its creator, which of course means it is not perfect at all but is instead “perfectly imperfect.” By that I mean my story and sharing is authentic because I approached only with the intent to remain true to myself and my voice. You will see the flaws in my character as well as my strengths, something which I believe stands true for my writing as well.

Some have called me courageous, but others might prefer the adjective audacious. Perhaps, it’s a bit of both. However you choose to label it, I tell you my unconventional path so that you know it is available to you as well . . . whatever the universe might be calling you to do.
Susan and Kellie in the Circle

Forward is the only word that is of importance. “What do I need to do today?” (At times the answer is ‘nothing’ as our work sometimes requires simmering.) It’s a fabulous question and guiding principle versus the mantra, “Let me get all my ducks in a row.” Ducks don’t always cooperate and I have found that where you are headed and how you will get there is revealed and available when its time comes.

And so, I encourage you to do what it is “they” and you fear cannot be done. Find the spark of audacity we all were born with and fuel it with thoughts of, “Of course I can,” and, “Yes, I will.” And then, as Nike suggests, just do it.

Have you taken an "audacious" path to penning your memoir, and, if so, can you share your experience?

In Relentless: A Journey of Forgiveness, Kellie Springer shares her very human experience on the path to forgiveness for the abuses she suffered as a child. She explores the depth of trauma and the long journey to healing, self-awareness, and self-compassion. Readers will be captivated by her candid story, anxiously accompanying Kellie through her walk of personal growth, and finally celebrating her realization of compassion and forgiveness. In telling her story, Kellie seeks to inspire others to own their stories and the truths that lie within themselves, in order that they may live from a place of authenticity.

Kellie Springer RN, is the founder of Anam Cara Kellie, LLC, where she practices as a Reiki Master with a gift for intuitive insights to help her clients explore themselves and their lives more deeply. Prior to that, she worked as a psychiatric nurse for thirteen years. She joyfully shares her life in Pennsylvania with her husband and two children.

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